1) We admitted we were powerless over sex and love addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable.
Rom 7:14-24 For we know that the Law is spiritual, but I am of flesh, sold into bondage to sin. For what I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing what I would like to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate. But if I do the very thing I do not want to do, I agree with the Law, confessing that the Law is good. So now, no longer am I the one doing it, but sin which dwells in me. For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh; for the willing is present in me, but the doing of the good is not. For the good that I want, I do not do, but I practice the very evil that I do not want. But if I am doing the very thing I do not want, I am no longer the one doing it, but sin which dwells in me. I find then the principle that evil is present in me, the one who wants to do good. For I joyfully concur with the law of God in the inner man, but I see a different law in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin which is in my members. Wretched man that I am! Who will set me free from the body of this death?
Proverbs 14:12 There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.
Gal 5:17 For the flesh sets its desire against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; for these are in opposition to one another, so that you may not do the things that you please.
2) Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
John 3:15-16 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life. For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Romans 5:8 but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Psalm 30:10 Hear, O LORD, and be merciful to me; O LORD, be my help."
Psalm 54:4 Behold, God is my helper; the Lord is the upholder of my life.
2 Corinthians 12:9 "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
Isaiah 41:10 Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.
Psalm 146:8 The LORD opens the eyes of the blind. The LORD lifts up those who are weighed down. The LORD loves the godly.
Psalm 145:14 The LORD helps the fallen and lifts those bent beneath their loads.
Matt 9:29-30 Then he touched their eyes and said, "According to your faith will it be done to you";Then their eyes were opened, and they could see!
John 9:30 The man answered, “Why, this is an amazing thing! You do not know where he comes from, and yet he opened my eyes.
Rom 7:25 25Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, on the one hand I myself with my mind am serving the law of God, but on the other, with my flesh the law of sin. Find more
1 Cor 15:57 57but thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
3) Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
Proverbs 3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Proverbs 16:3 Commit your actions to the LORD, and your plans will succeed.
1 Peter 5:7 Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.
Psalm 37:5 Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
Psalm 55:22 Cast your burden upon the LORD and He will sustain you; He will never allow the righteous to be shaken.
Jeremiah 42:3 Pray that the LORD your God will tell us where we should go and what we should do."
9:23 "By grace you have been saved through faith; and
that not of yourselves,
4) Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Lam 3:40 Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the LORD.
Psalm 139:23-24 Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
Jer 17:10 But I, the LORD, search all hearts and examine secret motives. I give all people their due rewards, according to what their actions deserve."
Psalm 26:2 Put me on trial, LORD, and cross-examine me. Test my motives and my heart.
5) Admitted to GOD, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
James 5:16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed.
Proverbs 28:13 He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy.
Lev 5:5 When anyone is guilty in any of these ways, he must confess in what way he has sinned
6) Were entirely ready to have GOD remove all these defects of character.
Psalm 19:12-14 How can I know all the sins lurking in my heart? Cleanse me from these hidden faults. Keep your servant from deliberate sins! Don't let them control me. Then I will be free of guilt and innocent of great sin. May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer.
Jeremiah 33:8 I will cleanse them from all the sin they have committed against me and will forgive all their sins of rebellion against me.
James 4:7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
7) Humbly asked Him to remove all our shortcomings.
1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
1 John 1:7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.
Psalm 51:10 Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
Psalm 51:2 Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity And cleanse me from my sin!
James 4:10 Humble yourselves in the presence of the Lord, and He will exalt you.
8) Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
9) Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Matthew 5: 23-24 So if you are offering your gift at the altar and remember there that another believer has something against you, leave your gift at the altar. First go away and make peace with that person. Then come back and offer your gift.
Mark 11:25 Whenever you pray, forgive anything you have against anyone. Then your Father in heaven will forgive your failures.
Matthew 6:14 If you forgive the failures of others, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
Matthew 5:7 Blessed are those who show mercy. They will be treated mercifully.
Luke 6:37 Stop judging, and you will never be judged. Stop condemning, and you will never be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.
Romans 2:1 Therefore, you have no defense, Oh man, who judges his neighbor, for that in which you judge your neighbor, of that you are guilty yourself, for you also who are judging are engaged in those things.
Colossians 3:13 Make allowance for each other's faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.
Romans 12:17-18 Don't pay people back with evil for the evil they do to you. Focus your thoughts on those things that are considered noble. As much as it is possible, live in peace with everyone.
10) Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
Romans 12:2-3 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.
Philippians 2:12-13 Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. For it is God who worketh in you both to will and to do of Heris good pleasure.
Isaiah 30:21 Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, "This is the way; walk in it."
1 Cor 10:12 So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall!
Psalm 25:9 He guides the humble in what is right and teaches them his way.
Proverbs 3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge Herim, and SHe shall direct thy paths.
11) We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and power to carry that out. Compare with Promise 6.
John 5:24 I tell you the truth, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be condemned; s.he has crossed over from death to life.
1 John 3:14 We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love other believers, (one another, the brethren). The person who doesn't grow in love remains in death.
1 Cor 6:20 For you are bought with a price: therefore glorify God (whoreship, magnify, party with fellow believers) in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.
John 15:11 In such a way that your joys may be full
1 Peter 1:18 For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your forefathers,
John 15:12 My command is this: Love one another as I have loved you. Make purified love to one another, not one other.
Romans 12:1 And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all S.He has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice--the kind S.He will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship Herim.
Romans 6:13 and offer the parts of your body to Herim as instruments of righteousness.
1 Peter 4:8 Above all, keep fervent in your love (charity) for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins. Be hospitable to one another without complaint. As each one has received a special gift, employ it in serving one another as good stewards of the manifold grace of God. We should thus be making purified hospitable love with one another out of the manifold grace of God.
Eph 4:25c Love one another, not one other, as members of one another, not one other.
Psalm 100:2 Sing joyfully to God, all the earth: serve ye the Lord with gladness. Be coming before Heris presence with exceeding great joy.
Micah 6:8 He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?
John 14:16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever.
John 14:26 But He, The Redeemer of the accursed, The Spirit of Holiness, the Comforter, whom my Father sends in my name, He will teach you all things and He will remind you of everything whatsoever I have told you.
Philipians 4:5-7 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Hebrews 13:16 But of doing good and communicating and sharing of your substance be not forgetful, for with such sacrifices God is well pleased.
Philipians 4:8-9 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.
Psalm 50:1,3,5, 14-17 The LORD, the Mighty One, is God, and he has spoken; Our God comes; he does not keep silence; “Gather My godly ones to Me, Those who have made a covenant with Me by sacrifice.” Offer to God a sacrifice of thanksgiving And pay your vows to the Most High; “Call upon Me in the day of trouble; I shall rescue you, and you will honor Me.” But to the wicked God says, “What right have you to tell of My statutes And to take My covenant in your mouth? For you hate discipline, And you cast My words behind you.
12) Having had a spiritual experience as the result of these steps, we try to
- carry this message to others and
- practice these principles in all our affairs.
Matt 28:18-20 And Yeshua spoke with them and he said to them, “All authority has been given to me in Heaven and in the earth; in the manner in which my Father has sent me, I am sending you.”“Therefore go disciple all the nations and baptize them in the name of The Father and The Son and The Spirit of Holiness.”And instruct them to keep everything whatever I have commanded you, and behold, I am with you every day, even unto the end of time. Amen”
Mark 16:15 And then he told them, "Go into all the world and preach the Good News to everyone.
Romans 8:37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.
John 16:33 "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."
1 Corinthians 15:57 But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
Galatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
Ephesians 5:2 and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
Romans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.